Come Along, Pond!
The way I see it, every life is a pile of good things and bad things. The good things don’t always soften the bad things, but vice-versa, the bad things don’t necessarily spoil the good things and make them unimportant.
You are obviously having a hard time shipping canon ships, I feel for you and wish you all the best in your future endeavors.
So from what I’ve gathered thus far, this is an accurate description of any shipping war on tumblr